Parenting is a contact sport to begin with, but it can be nice to have the tag-team in effect and to be able to rotate out once in a while and let the other half deal with whatever the issue of the moment is. Sometimes it can be hard to catch one's breath.
The other issue has to do with the day-to-day minutiae of running a household, paying bills, grocery shopping, laundry, house cleaning, going to the post office, birthday cards, Christmas shopping and the like. In the last 4 years since we separated I have been doing it all. On most days it isn't that much of a big deal, but there are times when I could use a personal assistant - or a lackey.
A friend of mine's daughter makes her living as a personal assistant for the rich and/or famous. She was for several years in charge of running the household for a famous comedian/TV actor. She paid the bills, managed the comings and goings of plumbers and other tradesmen, furniture deliveries, etc. She didn't do any nanny duties, just the other. Now she does the same the thing for some software mogul on the west coast.
It is doubtful that I will ever be able to afford such a luxury. But at times I misplace a bill, or some other piece of information mailed to me that should be filed, or end up eating out because I don't have time to run to the market, etc. I am horrible with birthday and Christmas cards, so if you should ever get one, I must have been having a good week.
I do hope this isn't how you are asking out women..."Hi, I need someone to pay my bills and pick up my dry cleaning. You wanna have dinner some time?"
ReplyDeleteAmy, I don't really go out, and that probably wouldn't be my lead. But it might be. I suppose it is fair to say that I have forgotten how to date, and honestly I was never very good at it.
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